Jakarta, CNBC Indonesia – A child’s growth and development is closely related to what he sees and learns from his surrounding environment. Not surprisingly, parental role models clearly have an important role in helping children.
Unfortunately, there are still many parents who do not realize the urgency of implementing this principle, so many of them actually set bad examples for their children. For example, unconsciously verbally saying things that actually make them unmotivated to develop.
This must be realized and done from an early age, because all forms of communication will be clearly remembered by children’s motor sensors and affect their character. So this will affect the child’s growth and development.
The importance of good communication is proven by the research of Margot Machol Bisnow, a writer and childcare expert from the United States (US), who interviewed 70 parents who raised children to become adults.
Those who become very successful find that parental communication plays a big role in shaping the child’s future. According to Bisnow, the words below are never used by parents of children who grow up to be successful people.
1. “No playing after school until your grades improve.”
Many parents do not understand their children’s desires and aspirations. Some children may not actually have the desire to be good at academics, but their parents actually impose their own wishes.
Parents should support their children’s wishes. Because playing activities help children learn to socialize and make rules and agreements. That way, children have the opportunity to learn until they are able to make decisions.
2. “Mom and dad will give you money if you get good grades.”
Giving money when a child gets good grades, or completes other school assignments, is not recommended. When parents only focus on achievement and satisfactory grades at school, the child’s potential will wither before it can develop.
Grades and achievements at school are important, but don’t forget that parents also need to support the development of various other aspects of life so that children grow into complete and positive individuals.
3. “Dad/mom doesn’t believe you, so dad/mom checks your homework and corrects anything wrong.”
John Arrow, owner of Mutual Mobile, a leading technology company, admitted that when he was in fifth grade, he and his friends wrote the school newspaper, which immediately sold out. However, they failed to carry out fact checking.
The principal became very angry, and his friends got into trouble with their parents. But John’s parents laughed and told him to correct his mistake.
“Knowing my parents would support me, even when the school was against me, made me work harder to show them that they had made the right decision in trusting me,” John said.
4. “Father/mother gives you extra pocket money so you can buy whatever you want.”
The negative impact of spoiling children stems from parents’ habits of granting all their children’s wishes. This habit indirectly prevents children from learning the concept and attitude of responsibility.
Children who are used to being pampered with money will become lazy, unmotivated, and also easily angry if their desires are not fulfilled. Ultimately, they will grow up without emotional maturity, and have difficulty coping with problems when they grow up.
All parents should emphasize the importance of responsibility from an early age. They want children to take responsibility, face their own problems, learn from mistakes and become more confident as they get older.
The most important thing is to give children an understanding of the uses of pocket money and provide facilities for children to save.
Mother, take note, these are 5 characteristics of children that are signs of success in the future